I’m currently away at a conference, and one of the speakers today was a self-confessed hardcore feminist. She was terrifying. She blamed men for everything that was wrong in the world today, until every male in the room was trying to hide under the table. Whilst she did make many a valid point in relation to gender inequality, it did strike me whilst she was speaking that by presenting her argument in such an antagonist way, she was actually portraying women in a bad light. I felt extremely uncomfortable listening to her, and afterwards, I felt myself questioning my own point of view on the issue of feminism.

Despite being very pro women, I’m also very pro men. By that, I mean that I believe that the only way forward is for both sexes to be completely equal. There are very few issues that are gender specific in my mind, which is why I have never been a member of any female only division, group or club. I often find them intimidating, out-dated and worse of all, extremely bitchy. I also find them ineffective. Yes, there are issues that mainly effect women or mainly effect men, but that doesn’t mean that both genders can’t work together to come up with solutions. I’m thinking in particular of issues such as domestic violence, rape and eating disorders which often have more of an impact on women. However, men are also effected by all these so why do we very often focus on gender specific solutions to them? It makes no sense to me.

True enough, we do live in a  pre-dominantly masculine work and women aren’t always equal. We see this in terms of promotion and salary, and other fundamental issues. However, I find elements of feminism to be dangerous as rather than bringing the sexes together, it emphasises the differences between them. By taking such an approach, there’s a danger therefore of losing sight of the inherent similarities. Unity is strength is my mind, and by following an equalitist agenda, we can support those who are discriminated against or victimized irrespective of their gender.